We advise ourselves by choosing who to listen to. The voices that say “this is too much for you, stay put, don’t reach too far” are always more numerous. What we’re really asking, by seeking their advice, is that they tell us it’s not our fault – that our situation was unchangeable anyway, and it would have been foolish to try. If we listen to them, it’s because we knew what they’d say and it’s what we wanted to believe; merely asking such a person is a loss of heart.
— Asher's Maxim 493