A lot of people carry around the superstition that if a thing is meant to be, it’ll show itself and, if you run into a lot of crap, you must have done something wrong. This notion that there’s a script for our lives comes from fundamentalist religion, but it leaks into the wider culture. The opposite may just as easily be true, if we need a narrative. The more crap that rises up to meet you, the more likely you’re going the right direction. Their way is circular reasoning.
— Asher's Maxim 317